What is delayed grief?

Delayed grief is a postponed form of grief and a completely natural reaction after losing someone. This complex grief reaction can take some time to surface, be it a week, a month or even years after a death.

For many people, it is not uncommon to initially repress feelings of grief after a death, only for these feelings to manifest themselves at a later date. Unfortunately, those experiencing delayed grief are often reluctant to speak to people about how they’re feeling. This is usually because time has passed since family and friends experienced such emotions.

Why do we experience delayed grief?

Grief affects everyone differently, and delayed grief is no different. If losing someone has come as a sudden shock to a family, the immediate grief can be too devastating to manage, and therefore either subconsciously or consciously repressed.

For some people, they are viewed as the strong member of the family, the one who needs to hold the family unit together and be there for everyone else at such a trying time. Although an invaluable support to others, this can result in not having the time to grieve yourself, resulting in delayed grief.

Unfortunately, the day-to-day eat/work/sleep routine doesn’t stop when someone has passed away. Someone may have significant life events to deal with whilst attempting to grieve, such as pregnancy, a divorce, major work event or anything that will have prevented the typical grieving process.

In each of these circumstances, the grief has been somewhat buried beneath the surface, often reappearing if triggered by the loss of another or even something minor that would otherwise be insignificant.

What are the signs of delayed grief?

If the initial feelings of grief are suppressed, it can later present itself in various forms. It is also important to remember that everyone grieves in different ways; something that might signify delayed grief in one person may not signify it in another.

Read below for common signs of delayed grief:

Feelings of depression

Anxiety and depression are common in those experiencing delayed grief, causing someone to struggle with their everyday routine and feeling hopeless. Another sign is feeling very tearful, enduring uncontrollable sobbing and unexplained headaches.

A yearning for their loved one

Another symptom of delayed grief is being consumed by the thought of the loved one that has passed, causing elements of distress.

Unanticipated emotion

As this feeling of grief is delayed from an earlier time, some of the emotions a person might experience can seem disproportionate to the situation. Someone could be facing a period of unexplained sadness and anger that is almost out of nowhere.

Mood swings

Similar to feeling unexplained levels of sadness or anger, a person may also find they are going through a bout of mood swings. Grief can bring about a storm of emotions, causing those experiencing it to go from hysteria to irritability and feeling numb.

What do I do about delayed grief?

If you’re struggling with how to deal with delayed grief, there are lots of things you can do to help get you back to your normal self.

There is no shame in asking for help when it comes to grieving. Whether it is initial grief or delayed, your emotions are valid and there is support available. It is important to take steps towards healing yourself so that you are able to live your life to the full. If you or someone you know may be experiencing delayed grief, find out about your local support groups.

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The price quoted contains the Funeral Director fees for a simple funeral. This includes:

  • Funeral Director fees for meetings, paperwork and running the funeral
  • Collection of the deceased and care prior to funeral
  • Hearse or appropriate vehicle for transport to the funeral
  • Basic coffin

The Funeral Director fees quoted do not include third party costs (often called disbursements). The Funeral Director will guide you through your options. These costs are:

  • Cremation or burial fees
  • Medical certificate for cremation
  • Clergy or officiant fee for conducting the ceremony

In addition to the disbursements you may want to discuss optional costs with your Funeral Director - these could include:

  • Funeral flowers
  • Memorial (venue hire, catering etc)
  • Memorial headstone
  • Orders of service
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