Uplifting Funeral Wake Ideas

A wake is a chance to come together with friends and family to share memories of a loved one, before or after a funeral ceremony. The wake traditionally was a very sombre occasion, but today they are used as a celebration of the life of your loved one, an opportunity to share memories with family and friends.

In this article, provide lots of funeral wake ideas which will help to spark conversation, evoke happy memories and personalise the event to your loved one.

Where to hold a funeral wake

One of the best ways to find somewhere to hold a funeral wake is to remember the favourite places of your loved one. Did they often walk their dog in a local park, or maybe they were a regular at their village pub? Places like these which hold a strong connection to your loved one can help those attending the wake to join in with sharing happy memories, rather than focussing on the sadness of loss.

Think about when your wake is being held too. If you are having a wake before the funeral service, which is traditionally when a wake was held, you could consider holding a special memorial brunch at their favourite café. If you are holding a wake after the service, which is the more common today, you could consider visiting your loved one’s local pub for a sit down meal together.

If the service is taking place in summer, you could hold a “celebration of life” BBQ or garden party. Alternatively, if you wish to have a more low-key gathering, spending time with family and friends at your home can be a very comforting way to begin the day of a funeral.

Funeral Wake Decoration Ideas

Just as many decorate the funeral service venue, it can be a lovely personal touch to decorate the wake venue too.

The simple addition of the deceased’s favourite flowers, or a sprinkle of confetti in their favourite colour, can help to remind those attending of their loved ones. This is an inexpensive way to add a really meaningful touch to a wake.

Bringing in these decorations as a nod to your loved one’s hobbies or interests is another great way to encourage an uplifting conversation at a funeral wake. If your loved one was a keen sewer, you could bring along some of their creations to adorn the table and seating with. Or, if they were a big football fan, you can drape their club’s football shirts over the backs of chairs or decorate the table in their club’s colours.

Another simple way to spark a happy conversation between guests is to spread photos of happy memories around the table. With many of us holding onto photos through our phones, taking the time to get photos printed means guests can hold and pass around the images at a wake, and take some home as a reminder of their loved one too.

Funeral Wake Food Ideas

Another thoughtful way to evoke memories of your loved one is to serve the food they loved or that reminds you of them. In day to day life, a lot of happy memories and celebrations centre around food. It doesn’t just have to be their favourite food either, maybe you want to share with guests one of the simple home cooked meals your loved one would make for you, or remember a fond family holiday with food from that place.

By sharing this with your guests, it gives you the opportunity to relive the stories and memories connected with the food you are serving and help you to feel close to the person you have lost.

Are you planning a wake and funeral service? We have lots of advice articles to help you navigate the process at an emotionally challenging time. Click here to read more of our funeral planning advice articles.

×

Request Advice

Call a member of the Funeral Choice advice team on 01983 754387

or complete our enquiry form.

×

Funeral Director fees

The price quoted contains the Funeral Director fees for a simple funeral. This includes:

  • Funeral Director fees for meetings, paperwork and running the funeral
  • Collection of the deceased and care prior to funeral
  • Hearse or appropriate vehicle for transport to the funeral
  • Basic coffin

The Funeral Director fees quoted do not include third party costs (often called disbursements). The Funeral Director will guide you through your options. These costs are:

  • Cremation or burial fees
  • Medical certificate for cremation
  • Clergy or officiant fee for conducting the ceremony

In addition to the disbursements you may want to discuss optional costs with your Funeral Director - these could include:

  • Funeral flowers
  • Memorial (venue hire, catering etc)
  • Memorial headstone
  • Orders of service
Close
×

What is a Direct Cremation?

A Direct Cremation is an alternative to the traditional funeral. This involves the cremation of the deceased without a funeral service. A Direct Cremation is generally the most economic option because costs of the coffin, preparation of the body, funeral service and expensive transportation are not included. However, many people choose Direct Cremations for reasons other than expense, for example:

  • - Wanting to have a memorial at a different time to the cremation
  • - Expressed desire from the deceased to not have a ceremony
  • - Individuals with relatives who face big physical or geographical challenges in coming together for a ceremony

The prices quoted for Direct Cremations include:

  • All charges, meetings and paperwork for the cremation
  • Collection of deceased and care prior to cremation
  • A simple coffin and urn for the ashes
  • Cremation fees and delivery of ashes to the family
Close
×

Attended funeral

This is Funeral Choice’s best estimate of this Funeral Director’s fees for an Attended Funeral, which is where family and friends have a ceremony or service for the deceased person at the same time as they attend their burial or cremation.

This price includes the following:

  • Taking care of all necessary legal and administrative arrangements
  • Collecting and transporting the deceased person from the place of death (normally within 15 miles of the funeral director’s premises) into the funeral director’s care
  • Care of the deceased person before the funeral in appropriate facilities.
  • Providing a suitable coffin
  • Optional viewing of the deceased person for family and friends, by appointment with the funeral director
  • At a date and time you agree with the funeral director, taking the deceased person direct to the agreed cemetery or crematorium (normally within 20 miles of the funeral director’s premises) in a hearse or other appropriate vehicle

In addition to the Funeral Director’s fee, there will be third party costs to consider (sometimes called disbursements) to cover the other aspects of a funeral (such as the crematorium or burial fees). Your chosen Funeral Director will be able to provide these for you.

Close
×

Unattended funeral

This is Funeral Choice’s best estimate of this Funeral Director’s fees and the crematorium fee for an Unattended Funeral, which is where family and friends may choose to have a ceremony, event or service for the deceased person, but they do not attend the burial or cremation itself. This is also known as a Direct Cremation.

This price includes the following:

  • Funeral Director's fees
  • Crematorium fee (for an unattended funeral) as selected by the Funeral Director

In addition to this fee, there might be additional third party costs to consider (sometimes called disbursements). Your chosen Funeral Director will be able to explain these for you.

If you wish to attend the funeral, you should view the “Attended Funeral” price instead.

Close
×

Why is this price Estimated?

We work hard to ensure the Funeral Director Fees we display are accurate and up to date. However, unlike with our partners, we cannot guarantee this price is correct today.

Funeral Director fees

The price quoted contains the Funeral Director fees for a simple funeral. This includes:

  • Funeral Director fees for meetings, paperwork and running the funeral
  • Collection of the deceased and care prior to funeral
  • Hearse or appropriate vehicle for transport to the funeral
  • Basic coffin

The Funeral Director fees quoted do not include third party costs (often called disbursements). The Funeral Director will guide you through your options. These costs are:

  • Cremation or burial fees
  • Medical certificate for cremation
  • Clergy or officiant fee for conducting the ceremony

In addition to the disbursements you may want to discuss optional costs with your Funeral Director - these could include:

  • Funeral flowers
  • Memorial (venue hire, catering etc)
  • Memorial headstone
  • Orders of service
Close
×

Funeral Choice charity donation

To redeem the £20 charity donation all you have to do is select the charity from the dropdown list in the Make Contact form. Once you have confirmed arrangements with that funeral director send us an email to info@yourfuneralchoice.com confirming the service has been arranged. After we receive this email we will make the donation to the chosen charity and confirm back to you.

Close