Why Is Black Traditionally Worn at Funerals?

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If you’ve ever been to a funeral – particularly in the Western world – you’ll be familiar with the tradition of wearing black as a mark of respect and honour for the dead. Why is that? What are the origins of wearing black in Western society? And are there other countries and cultures where black is not the traditional choice for a funeral?

The backstory of black at funerals

Most observers trace the wearing of black garments at funerals back to Roman times. In those days, attendees would wear a dark-coloured toga, known as a toga pulla, to show they were in mourning for the deceased. The tradition was disseminated throughout the Roman Empire and took root in British society, where the upper classes would observe it fastidiously.
Indeed, in some cases, ladies in mourning were expected to wear black clothes for a whole year after the death of their husband, and to observe “half-mourning” for three years after that. In this time, it was permitted to allow purple and grey to enter back into their wardrobe again. With the Industrial Revolution in the 18th century, the practice became more widespread among the working classes and by this time had also spread to the rest of the British Empire, including the United States, Canada and Australia.

Other colours in other cultures

The association of black with funeral is deeply-rooted in Roman Catholicism and Christianity, but for other religions, white is often the colour which best represents mourning. In Buddhist and Hindu countries, for example, white is seen as a symbol of purity and innocence, meaning that places like China, India and the Middle East often feature all-white funerals.
Other cultures favour other colours to signify mourning. In Egypt, yellow is associated with the sun, a symbol of everlasting life; for this reason, many sarcophagi and mummies have masks painted in colours of yellow and gold and yellow is frequently worn to funerals. Ethiopia, Mexico and Myanmar are other countries where yellow is associated with mourning.
Meanwhile in Thailand, purple is the predominant colour of choice when widows mourn the death of their husband. Brazil also offers purple as a colour of bereavement, while in recent years the Catholic Church in Europe has also adopted it. Elsewhere, blue is favoured in South Korea and grey in Papua New Guinea.

New funeral trends

With the population of the world (and the West in particular) becoming less and less religious and more and more liberal, new trends have sprung up over recent years. Rather than an occasion of mourning, some people tend to prefer to view them as an occasion for celebration of the deceased’s life.

With that idea in mind, there are all kinds of new themed funerals, whereby attendees are invited to wear fancy dress, colourful clothing or follow a particular theme. As long as respect is being shown and those involved in organising the event don’t take offence, such funerals can be a marvellous occasion.

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  • Collection of the deceased and care prior to funeral
  • Hearse or appropriate vehicle for transport to the funeral
  • Basic coffin

The Funeral Director fees quoted do not include third party costs (often called disbursements). The Funeral Director will guide you through your options. These costs are:

  • Cremation or burial fees
  • Medical certificate for cremation
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In addition to the disbursements you may want to discuss optional costs with your Funeral Director - these could include:

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  • Memorial headstone
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A Direct Cremation is an alternative to the traditional funeral. This involves the cremation of the deceased without a funeral service. A Direct Cremation is generally the most economic option because costs of the coffin, preparation of the body, funeral service and expensive transportation are not included. However, many people choose Direct Cremations for reasons other than expense, for example:

  • - Wanting to have a memorial at a different time to the cremation
  • - Expressed desire from the deceased to not have a ceremony
  • - Individuals with relatives who face big physical or geographical challenges in coming together for a ceremony

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  • Taking care of all necessary legal and administrative arrangements
  • Collecting and transporting the deceased person from the place of death (normally within 15 miles of the funeral director’s premises) into the funeral director’s care
  • Care of the deceased person before the funeral in appropriate facilities.
  • Providing a suitable coffin
  • Optional viewing of the deceased person for family and friends, by appointment with the funeral director
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Funeral Director fees

The price quoted contains the Funeral Director fees for a simple funeral. This includes:

  • Funeral Director fees for meetings, paperwork and running the funeral
  • Collection of the deceased and care prior to funeral
  • Hearse or appropriate vehicle for transport to the funeral
  • Basic coffin

The Funeral Director fees quoted do not include third party costs (often called disbursements). The Funeral Director will guide you through your options. These costs are:

  • Cremation or burial fees
  • Medical certificate for cremation
  • Clergy or officiant fee for conducting the ceremony

In addition to the disbursements you may want to discuss optional costs with your Funeral Director - these could include:

  • Funeral flowers
  • Memorial (venue hire, catering etc)
  • Memorial headstone
  • Orders of service
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